Secret #3: Leave 'em wanting moreSure, you want your first kiss to be passionate...but that doesn't mean rough or messy. As one woman put it, "The worst first kiss is an aggressive, overly wet kiss. If a guy plunges his tongue in my mouth and spreads saliva all around my mouth, I tell him that I have to be at work early in the morning to cut things short." Super-deep kissing communicates that you're overeager, which can convince someone to put on the breaks. Give the recipient some air — that way, they'll be raring for more. "The one time I kissed a guy for the first time I made sure to pull away after a few seconds," recalls one woman. "It was great, since it gave me a second to look into his eyes and silently ask, 'Is this okay? You liking this?' before we dove back in. If we hadn't hit pause, I would never have known whether he was just kissing me to not be rude."
Secret #4: You'll win points for sensuality...
While a standard first kiss can be great, the men and women I've spoken with always remember — longingly — the ones that had an extra maneuver that heightened the romance factor. Usually, these are little moves that ramp up the kiss's sensuality. For instance, Samara O'Shea of New York, NY, recalls a great first kiss in which her guy "put his index finger gently on my chin to guide my mouth toward his — it was so sexy." And Lori Conte, of Providence, RI, shares this moment: "My boyfriend first kissed me softly on my neck, worked his way up to my ear, and finally found my mouth — that pretty much blew me away." Guys also love this kind of thing: Dan Allen, of San Antonio, TX, says, "One of my best-ever first kisses was when my date gently raked her nails through my hair — that got my nerve endings revved in an unexpected way." So feel free to add a little something extra.
While a standard first kiss can be great, the men and women I've spoken with always remember — longingly — the ones that had an extra maneuver that heightened the romance factor. Usually, these are little moves that ramp up the kiss's sensuality. For instance, Samara O'Shea of New York, NY, recalls a great first kiss in which her guy "put his index finger gently on my chin to guide my mouth toward his — it was so sexy." And Lori Conte, of Providence, RI, shares this moment: "My boyfriend first kissed me softly on my neck, worked his way up to my ear, and finally found my mouth — that pretty much blew me away." Guys also love this kind of thing: Dan Allen, of San Antonio, TX, says, "One of my best-ever first kisses was when my date gently raked her nails through my hair — that got my nerve endings revved in an unexpected way." So feel free to add a little something extra.
Secret #5: You won't win points for weirdness
While playing with your date's hair or ear may be great, please — don't go out on a limb in the name of originality. A 38-year-old married woman put it this way: "The first time my now-husband kissed me, he licked my face, kind of like a dog. I thought, What the heck is this? Believe me, I thought twice about ever seeing this guy again… I still tease him about it today by calling him 'puppy lips.'"
So there are two lessons to this story: Originality isn't always a good thing when it comes to first kisses, but — if there's enough of a connection there — even the worst of first kisses can be forgiven.
While playing with your date's hair or ear may be great, please — don't go out on a limb in the name of originality. A 38-year-old married woman put it this way: "The first time my now-husband kissed me, he licked my face, kind of like a dog. I thought, What the heck is this? Believe me, I thought twice about ever seeing this guy again… I still tease him about it today by calling him 'puppy lips.'"
So there are two lessons to this story: Originality isn't always a good thing when it comes to first kisses, but — if there's enough of a connection there — even the worst of first kisses can be forgiven.
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